Riding the Wave!

Not having the ability to travel or go out and view the amazing wonders of the world and just enjoy life has been such a downfall moving back to the states! Every day since moving back I have wished to just pick up and go back to a world that was just so stress-free and pressure-less. The pace of being back has just become so fast and easy to make mistakes. To date faster, love faster, age faster, work faster; yet missing all the signs of if we actually enjoy what we are doing or gaining any results. Living life so fast that we are missing what it’s like to actually live and love and be in tune with oneself. Finding qualities in people and things to understand why you enjoy it in the first place or why you know something is not for your own benefit. After really searching within for the past couple of weeks, Life has taught me to just, 

                    RIDE THE WAVE! 

To literally ride out the waves that I find interest in and not try to move so quickly that the wave engulfs me. To not let the waves I have in my life, whether big or small take advantage of my drive to succeed.  Some of our waves are smaller and it’s simple to ride them out. But for the rest of us, our waves are bigger and stronger that if we are not ready for them, they will wipe us out instantly. If we continue to forget about enjoying the little things and waiting for the next best thing, we will never be satisfied with what we have! Grab your board, pop-up, and take pride in taking the time to understand the wave ahead. #Surfsup! 

    New Journey: Traveling Towards my Passion! 

    A year ago I would have never thought I would be where I am today. Starting this travel journey has been absolutely amazing! I have dreamed of traveling to different countries all my life and now that I have gotten the opportunity and have checked off some amazing places off my bucket list, I am overjoyed with happiness. But now I ask myself, What am I doing outside of traveling and posting on social media? Since traveling has been a childhood goal, do I let the rest of my childhood goals fall to the waist side because I completed one? 

    ABSOLUTELY NOT! 

    Yes it’s awesome to have been on this travel journey but there’s so much more that I want to accomplish. It’s great to have been able to go to a new country every month but I also want to further my education. The time has come to where I have to choose. I have to make the decision to pause one to do the other which is why I paused traveling the WORLD and now traveling towards my PASSION. With my backpack full of books on my shoulder and this year long path ahead, I will be more focused on getting A’s on my tests than stamps In my passport. I will be more focused on standing in line for new books than standing in line for security. 


    I am beyond thrilled to have had the opportunity to travel but for me, I have to get back focused to the task at hand and that’s pursuing this higher level education! Eventually I’ll be able to get my passport back out and see the world and hope you’ll join me! 

    No worries, I will still be updating on my AMAZING vacation this summer! 🙂 

    Stay tuned and wish me luck! 😘😘

    Let Me Be Great Without All the Hate! 

    Why is it that people do not like to see you happy? Better question is, why is it that it’s usually the people that are closest to you that always have something to say? My mom use to say, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all. The crazy thing is they are also the main ones asking you what is going on in your life. To those of you who are that negative friend, is it because your life is unhappy? Jealousy? Because we are finding peace where we are in life and you can’t accept your unhappiness? Whatever the case may be, STOP ruining our happiness with your negativity. To us passionate ones trying to find joy, STOP letting them ruin who we are trying to become! Do not let their negativity influence your attitude to become negative as well. Simply continue to strive for better by not letting those negative Nancys and nates phase us. 

    It’s a little hard to just cut off those so called “close friends” of ours because they have a bad attitude. To me, the easiest solution is simply don’t! Just stop letting their bad vibes phase you and if it comes to a point where it’s getting worse, stop telling them things. Eventually life will work itself out and realize that you are on a different path and 1 of 2 things will happen: 

    1: They will slowly start distancing themselves because your positive vibes are too much and they believe your life is better. 

    Or 

    2: They will realize that your happiness is to see them happy as well and they will get on board to happyland. 

    If they happen to do the first one, guess what? THAT IS TOTALLY FINE! Alleviates you having to do the hard work of cutting ties and life will go on. People come and go all the time. 

    Don’t dim your light  because you see your light shining brighter than others and you want to fit in. 

    Continue to press forward and hopefully they will see your light shining from afar and will follow. Life and people are often difficult and mean. Don’t let neither one get the best of you! Some of you are probably thinking that this is easier said than done and trust me I completely understand! But I also know that people can influence in a negative way and we don’t even realize we’re being influenced until we are back into that black hole. We have worked so hard to get to where we are that we WILL NOT go back. All of those tears, the time, and more tears that it took to even understand why the tears were even falling. Being completely vulnerable with ourselves to open up and look inside what we have been locking away for years! 

    Don’t fall into the trap!

     LOVE yourself,

     STAY positive, 

    and DON’T let the negativity of others dim your light! 

    Keep Shining! 🙂 

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    21 Days of Self-Love 

    Do you ever feel like your life is not where it’s suppose to be heading? Where nothing is going as planned and you are so down on yourself where you just need a few words of encouragement to get through the day? Well I TOTALLY understand that and so I want you all to go on this 21 day journey with me. Set a time and date to start and every day for 21 days come on this blog and read your daily quote. Everyone deserves to be Happy! 

    1. Say out loud: I will continue to love myself even when it feels like the world hates me. 

    2. Never let your attitude display your failure. Today when you feel like you have failed, don’t let it show. Instead find something that you are grateful for and say it out loud! 

    3. Write somewhere: I will continue to shine my light in my darkest days

    4. Tell yourself today: Be the person God wants me to be and not what man wants me to be.  

    5. Tag a sticky note and post somewhere you always visit: I will Love myself FIRST! 

    6. Be confident in yourself and your decisions today. Go with your instinct and support it through. 

    7. Be open to seek help. Today if you have a task or something that you can use some assistance with, ASK! No matter how big or small. 

    Whew, you made it through week one! ❤️

    8. No matter who judges you, you have to be willing to make a change on your own. Noone can make it for you! 

    9. Some people wish they had even an ounce of what you have, appreciate where you are in life today and smile. 

    10. Life isn’t black and white, enjoy a few colors here and there. Laugh at a wack joke or tell a joke to someone today. 

    11. No one cares more about you than YOU! Write down 3 of your goals you would like to complete today. 

    12. Don’t be afraid to say NO! Not everyone deserves a yes. If you have to today, be confident in telling someone No! 

    13. How can you make someone happy if you’re not happy? Find something today that makes you happy.

    14. Compliment yourself today and then compliment someone else. This way you both win! 

    Keep it going! Week 2 is just getting good! 

    15. Write someone a letter and let them know you forgive them. Read it out loud and then toss it. Feel the relief of letting something go that you have been holding on to. 

    16. When you’re out doing your morning routine, buy a stranger a coffee, a bagel, or even a card. Heck bring doughnuts to your job, let people know you appreciate them! 

    17. Plan a trip today that you have been wanting to do for a while! Whether it’s to try a new restaurant, go to a new grocery store, or checking out a new mall. Put it in your schedule and go! 

    18. Have a lunch date with a coworker that you don’t talk to often. Get to know someone new, you might have some things in common! 

    19. Write Somewhere: Self-Love is the best love! When I’m open to loving myself, someone will be open to loving me. 

    20. Take a selfie and post it on your social media outlet with an inspiration quote about loving yourself. 

    21. Comment below and share how this blog has helped you become a better you! 

    Congratulations! You made it to the end! Hope your 21 day journey has kept you positive and focused on your happiness! ❤
    Live. Laugh. Love. 

    25 reasons Why Being Single in 2017 Won’t Suck 

    2017 is the year of me! I want all of you to repeat that at least 10 times or until you actually believe it! We are not going into 2017 the same way we left 2016. You know why? Because we are going to focus on bettering ourselves this entire year! We are going to leave those heartbreaks in the past, the negativity behind, and most importantly the complacency will have to go. This year we will focus on living a full life! 2017: 3R’s!!  Refocusing, rebalancing, and rebuilding  Ready, set, WELCOME 2017!!!!!  

    1. Own a self-development book….

    At this point in our life we need all the help we can get! Find an author that you like that inspires you to want to be a better PERSON. 

    2. Treat yourself to a full day of pampering at the spa….

    It’s soo easy to get so caught up in wanting to find yourself at this age you start to lose yourself even more! Make sure you find time to take a break here and there to enjoy a day of relaxation! 

    3. Take yourself out to dinner….

    I understand that eating out everyday is convenient especially when you find that fast food restaurant that’s always actually fast and the food isn’t half bad. But let’s try to actually sit down, relax, and enjoy a nice meal prepared FOR you! 

    4. Cook an entire holiday meal…

    Prepare a full home cooked meal from start to finish by yourself and enjoy it alone! See how rewarding it will feel after.  

    5. Go wine tasting…

    Repeat after me: WINE IS LIFE! The older we got the fancier we try to be. Therefore, go try out a few wines and find your favorite! I promise you will like at least 3 and leave with about 5 bottles. 

    6. Host a girls night at your house…

    We’re never to old for a girls night/sleepover at the house. Call your girls, everyone bring a dish, and just enjoy each other’s company with a little gossip. Soooo who got the tea??

    7. Go house hunting to start putting together your dream home… 

    You don’t need a family to start preparing for YOUR dream home. Go out and see what’s out there! Make an appointment in a neighborhood you see yourself living in and do some research. Who knows it could be in your near future! 

    8. Take selfies…

    Listen, you just became available on the market, your confidence is high, and you’re ready to focus on you! Flick away and post every single one! If anyone has a problem simply reply, 

    “HATASSSS GONNA HATE”! 🤷🏽‍♀️

    9. Invest in a good luggage set..
    It’s time for us to set sail and travel but let’s not get to the airport with our bags falling apart or wheels falling off! Invest in a good luggage set. 

    10. Have a comfortable bed…

    Sleep is superrrr important and a vital part in life. Make sure you have a good mattress to support your beauty sleep. Who wants to wake up grumpy every day because we didn’t get a good nights rest. 

    11. Stop Forcing relationships and enjoy dating…..

    Every guy you meet does not mean he’s your potential boyfriend or next relationship! Please STOP with the forcing of relationships and getting heart broken because of it. Let’s simply bring back dating and watch where it goes. No heartbreaks 2017!  

    12. Visit a museum….

    If you haven’t visited a museum it’s okay. Now is the time to go! Whether it’s by yourself or with a group of friends, go enjoy some of the amazing art and history some museums have. 

    13. Find a FAVORITE at a local coffee shop…

    Ladies, our husband is waiting for us but we never walk into that coffee shop near our house according to the movies. (Lol). Totally kidding, but a good reason to get out of the house or your car is to stop by your favorite place and get to know the barista. Makes a difference in your mornings. 

    14. Have a signature dish everyone loves…

    Ever get invited to different events and you have no idea what to bring so you spend hours on Pinterest? Find that go to dish that everyone loves and it takes you 10 seconds to make. You’ll enjoy going to parties a lot more! 

    15. Own a pair of classy black heels….

    Every women needs a pair of black heels. Not stilettos, not pumps, not platforms, just a black 3in heel that we keep in our car just in case we need to transition. It will definitely come in clutch. 

    16. Know the difference between happy hour attire, after 5 attire, and Business Casual….

    Dating 101, know the difference in attire etiquette. Let’s dress appropriately to events and when we walk in, all eyes are on us because we are on FIREEEE. Not because we’re in sweatpants and nikes. 

    17. Know how to get dressed in less than an hour or two…

    We all know that in college last minute studying is pretty much life. We do what we want all day and an hour before a test we study, go in, and ace it! So why does it take 4 hours to put on a tshirt and jeans? It’s time to manage our time better! 

    18. Find a facial regiment that works for your skin…..

    Okay. I get that there are a thousand Face creams and body washes out there. This is the time to experiment and find what works for you! We are not trying to go into 2018 still working on getting rid of a blackhead. Take this time and do your research. 

    19. Have a passport…

    This is probably one of the hardest yet easiest things to do. At 25 having a passport is a MUST. At this point in your life we just graduated college, starting careers and is ready to travel the world! 

    …….But you need a Passport! 

    20. Own a credit card with reward points..

    Did you know that when you go shopping you could be earning rewards? If you’re not into getting credit cards that’s totally okay but if you are, definitely look into getting rewards or cash back for buying that cute outfit you couldn’t wait to wear! 

    21. Learn how to pack an overnight bag….

    Stop trying to pack your whole entire life to spend a couple of days in a hotel room. By this time you should be able to fit everything you need into 1 or 2 bags that are easily manageable to be carried by YOU. 

    22. Invest in an expensive handbag…

    Going into 2017 you should not be rocking fake designer bags anymore.  If you’re going to carry a bag without labels that is perfectly fine! However, wearing a bag with LV upside down and MK becomes KM, not so cute! It’s time to put a little money into a bag that you will take care of and use! 

    23. Have a designated “BEST FRIEND”…..

     By 2017 your business no longer becomes everybody’s business. Have that one friend that you talk to and is close with. No need to be seeking out advice from ALL your friends on and off social media to be your counselor. Half of us are just nosey anyways! 

    24. Let go of old Routines and bad habits……. 

    If you’re always in black, wear blue. If you’re always driving the same way to work, take a different route. Always the texter and never the texting, STOP! Seriously break those old routines and start seeking new adventures. 

    25. Learn to Celebrate yourself….

    Buy a new pair of shoes?  pat yourself on the back for having the money. You bought a new appliance for your house? 2 snaps for you on adulting. Whatever it may be, start appreciating yourself and rewarding yourself for just being you. 2017 is our time to shine so let’s shine! 

    Hope you enjoyed! 

    Goodbye relationship goals and hello travel goals! 

    Sitting on the beach people watching and my first thoughts were, “I wish I had a boyfriend sitting next to me right now”, “this would be the perfect night for a proposal.” And then my second thought hit me. “Why do you wish that? Because you see couples walking around, you’re on social media seeing engagements, or because you really just want the company around?” Either way it goes, my first thought wasn’t I wish I had someone that actually loves or cares about me. All I thought was where is my “man” when I’m having these romantic date nights alone. You can try to argue the point of if he is my man than of course he loves me or cares about me. BUT ladies let’s be real. Alllll us single ladies know……….that is not the case! 

    How is it that us women go from loving ourselves and telling each other to wait for our Mr. Right one day but when we feel like we’re ready or feeling alone we wish we had a man or wish he can pop up for these awesome moments we’re having solo. Why can’t we just enjoy the moment for what it is worth without the extra person? After putting my thoughts to the side and realizing that I don’t wish I had a man to enjoy these memories with me, I started enjoying the moment and realizing that I’m okay right here living in the realization  that I am single. Heck I’m more than okay, I’m blessed to be sitting on an island watching the waves and drinking a beer with no one to please. 

    To my single ladies and to myself, let’s learn to enjoy the moments of our solo date nights and stop wishing we had someone to enjoy it with us. The more we force this “perfect” boyfriend to fit our “perfect” picture the smaller our frame gets. We’re not looking for a 3×5 on a shelf, we’re looking for a mural painted on our master bedroom wall. Our Mr. Right will come with time and when he does we will know! 

    So with that being said, get off that social media outlet where your “relationship goals” couples are, cherish the goals you set for yourself, cherish your time, and cherish the opportunities of being alone! Being single is a temporary fix for you to enjoy your own company and to prepare for your future husband. Let’s stop trying to do the work God already has planned out for us! 

    Love you all! 😘

    Live. laugh. love. ❤

    2016: Tie’s Year of Self-Reflection 

    Self- Reflection is a humbling process. It is essential to find out why you think, say, and do certain things…then better yourself! -Sonya Teclai 

     To think that 2016 could have totally been the opposite for me. I could have been miserable and down to have moved out of the country, I could have been sad and indulged in self pity from a broken relationship, I could have beaten myself up for not being where I wanted to be at 25, OR I could have made this year completely about me to find myself and what makes me happy. 

    I CHOSE TO BE HAPPY! 

     I learned that it’s okay to move away because your true family and friends will always be there, I learned that you can’t force someone to be happy if they are not willing to, and I learned that my Happiness starts with me! I am soo grateful for 2016 and all of the amazing people I have added in my life thus far. 


    I have lost a lot of “friendships” but I gained more opportunities for self reflection! To be able to do the things I love this year and commit to them has been nothing more than God blessing me. Starting my Zumba classes, traveling to different countries, coaching, and my new favorite hobby which is blogging! To be able to finish scrapbook projects, host holiday parties, and serve my community in 2016 just confirms the God has a plan for my life and it’s soo much more than I thought! 


    If you’re Jumping from one situation to the next, when do you have time to re-evaluate who you are as an individual? -Alex Elle 

    I know that I have a ways to go to be fully what God has called me to do but I can simply say that 2016 has definitely made me a better me and I am soo proud of the person that I have become! 

    2017… I am Ready for you!! 😍🍾💪🏽❤